What is the “Shadow Self?”

What if the parts of you you've been taught to hide are actually the most powerful keys to healing?

I've lived a life of duality for as long as I can remember. In high school, I was a straight-A student, serving on the student council, writing for the school newspaper, and playing sports. Meanwhile, on weekends, I would party, chase boys, and dance at raves. Then do it all over again. In university, the same rhythm continued; ambitious and disciplined during the week, wild and expressive on weekends. I walked between two worlds: one that earned praise and the other that stirred fear and shame. I worried that being fully seen would cost me credibility or connection. So I hid, keeping part of myself a secret from most. My dirty little secret.

As I entered adulthood, I followed the relationship script that was handed to me. I fell in love, got engaged, married, and had children. And for a time, I felt a sense of fulfillment. But eventually, I realized that the mould I had conformed to didn't reflect my true self, so I chose to unravel it all, and in doing so, discovered new relationship frameworks—structures like ethical non-monogamy, which offered me more freedom, alignment, and authenticity. Once again, though, I found myself navigating spaces that felt misunderstood or judged by the mainstream. Because of these extremes, I've learned to live in the grey, where shadow and light coexist. I've come to see that the parts I once tried to hide were never wrong, but rather, they were waiting to be welcomed.
My shadow self: the wild, wounded, sensual, and curious parts were just as worthy of love as the light I offered the world.

This is why I'm drawn to people who often feel like outsiders. Not because they're broken, but because they're beautifully complex. I've spent years immersed in communities of lovers, ravers, creatives, caregivers, professionals, and spiritual seekers, many of whom are those I hope to support as a therapist in Toronto. I call them shadow cultures, spaces rich in expression, connection, and embodied truth, yet often stigmatized or misunderstood. Inspired by Carl Jung's theory of the shadow self, my work centers on the belief that the parts we repress—our hedonistic tendencies, sensuality, rage, grief, shame, intensity, and desires—are not to be exiled. These shadow aspects are messengers. They hold unspoken needs, unprocessed pain, and unclaimed power. In therapy, we make space for these hidden parts, not to judge them, but to meet them with compassion and curiousity. This is the heart of my therapeutic practice. Gentle, yet profound. An exploration of love, identity, connection, boundaries, self-worth, and what it means to live an honest life.

As I prepare to open my practice, I envision working with individuals who live, work, or love in spaces that challenge convention. You don't have to over-explain these experiences with me. I understand the nuance. I've walked many of these paths myself and bring lived experience, psychological and sociological research, and therapeutic training into every session. If you're seeking a therapist who speaks your language and views your complexity not as a problem, but as a strength, you're in the right place.

I cannot wait to meet you…
… with an open mind and an open heart.

Belle Love

My path. My purpose.

I didn’t always know where I was going, but I’ve always known there was more.
More to love.
More to connection.
More to identity.
More to this human experience than just surviving.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt things deeply. I’ve stood at the edge of convention, often questioning what others accepted without pause. I’ve experienced the intensity of heartbreak, the weight of shame, the complexity of love, and the quiet ache of disconnection, even in rooms full of people. And I’ve rebuilt, more than once, from those very moments.

My path has never been linear. I’ve danced in the subcultures, stood inside systems, broken free from boxes, and followed a call that most couldn’t quite understand. Every step has led me here.
From studying deviance in books to studying deviance on dancefloors.
From managing fitness facilities to managing nap schedules and midnight feeds.
From Reiki tables to therapy rooms.
And here…
…well, here is precisely where I’m meant to be.

My purpose is simple:
To be a light.
To walk with people through the dark.
To help them remember who they are, beyond the noise, beyond the shame, beyond the roles they’ve outgrown.

I believe that love is boundless, healing is possible, and authenticity is our greatest power. I hold space for those navigating love and identity on their own terms. For the seekers, the outsiders, the overthinkers, the overfeelers. For those who’ve been told they were “too much” or “not enough.” For those redefining themselves after parenthood, divorce, trauma, or transition.

This isn’t just therapy. It’s soul work.
It’s truth work.
It’s a remembering.
And with my whole heart, I'm here for it.

Welcome to Belle Love Integrative Therapy.
Welcome to the journey home to yourself.